Once your baby grows up and starts walking around and asking for things, you have the next set of parenting challenges ready and raring to go. Learning how to communicate with your kid and the power of positive reinforcement are popular parenting tips that can help with the overall development of your kids. Communication with a child is especially important since how you talk to your child shapes them as individuals. Often, one wrong word from you can leave your child feeling confused, angry, fearful and induce other negative emotions. To ensure that you’re prepared to communicate with your child in a positive manner, here are 4 things you absolutely shouldn’t say to your child:
- Don’t Cry Like A Baby
One common phrase most parents use, mostly out of frustration is, “don’t cry like a baby” or “don’t be a baby”. But here’s the thing. Kids are emotional and crying is an outlet for them when they are unable to articulate exactly how they feel. Telling them to stop crying is basically you letting them know that expressing how they feel is wrong and could potentially lead to repressed emotions and stilted emotional growth when they grow up.
- Leave Me Alone
Of course you didn’t mean to have that outburst after a particularly hard day at work. But the constant nagging of your child got you to you and you asked them to leave you alone. Needing a break is a human emotion, but the way you balance your needs with those of your child’s is the real triumph of parenting. Instead of asking to be left alone, try and engage your kid in an activity that doesn’t require your presence and use that time to get some much needed break.
- Be More Like Your Sibling
Ah, comparisons between siblings, cousins, and other kids. An Indian parent’s go-to retort every time they want their kid to do better. Only, it doesn’t work. All you are doing is making your child resentful towards the sibling you are comparing them to and also making them feel like they are good for nothing. Instead of using a comparative tone, opt for one that casually points out how they can improve in the aspects they are faltering in.
- Wait Till Your Father Comes Home
The absolute worst thing to you can say to your child is a threat of any form. One common threat Indian parents are way too fond of using is, “wait till your father comes home”. While being a wrong parenting tactic, such threats also ensure that your kids don’t take you seriously and only act disciplined in front of their father.
These were the 4 common things you shouldn’t say to your child. Take a second to think before you say the first thing that comes to your mind and avoid any potentially scarring words.