You want what is best for your child. You, no doubt, want to do the best job you can as a mother. There are moments, however, when you are probably plagued by feelings of inadequacy.
Did the fact that you took an epidural during labour or went for a C-section, make you a less of a mother? Does the fact that you could not breastfeed, make your bond with your baby less strong? Are these the things that make a great mother at all?
The thing is being a good mom is actually quite simple.
- Patience: Parenting is the true test of this virtue. Having copious amounts of patience makes you a great example and a great teacher to your child. This makes things smoother for you and your child. They are children and they have a lot to learn and understand. Nothing better you can give will aide them better.
- Understanding: Every child is different. Please understand this simple home truth first. Your friends’ children are and will remain different from your child. Do not compare them with your child. Your child has their own persona and the sooner you realize and accept it, the easier you will find it to parent them. You will learn what works for them, and that is all that matters.
- Setting Rules: When your baby is an infant, their needs and wants are the same. As they grow older, that might not be the case. It is up to you to decipher between their wants and needs and know when to hold back and when to give in. Saying “No” constantly does not work nor does constantly consenting to their wants.
- Not Judging: Do not judge your children on the decisions they make, as well others. It is not a nice trait to have and definitely not one they should pick up from you. You can strive to be the best version of what you want to be for your child. That would set an example for them.
- Love: Let them know that you love them unconditionally, irrevocably, insanely. Nothing gives them a better feeling of security and safety than that. Even if you are not close to the idea of being your version of ideal mother, this would suffice.
When it comes to children, it is the little things that matter the most. As long as you do not go in with preconceived notions and are willing to listen with an open mind, you will make a great mother.