Sooner or later in her pregnancy, every woman has had a moment mixed with disgust and embarrassment at the same time. Possibly a stranger can make an awkward remark. The husband could be a guiltless culprit for these situations too. However, no matter if you’re a husband, friend, neighbour or stranger, here are 8 of the worst things you can say to a pregnant lady:
When are you due? March?
Never guess when a woman is due. We are not at the fair. You are not the creepy guy who guesses people’s weights or birthdays. If you know the person, asking her due date is perfectly fine. Go with “When are you due?” Full stop.
You look like you’re about to pop!
Pregnant women are not balloons, and ideally, nothing should be “popping.” Also, nobody wants to be told that they look so large they might burst.
Regardless of the possibility that you realize that this couple has been attempting to get pregnant for some time, don’t state anything along the lines of “Finally.” Maybe it’s a sudden surprise. Possibly they needed to experience a few rounds of IVF. Around 12% of ladies experience difficulty getting pregnant or conveying a pregnancy to term. Since you likely don’t know everything about their adventure, the main fitting reaction to a pregnancy declaration is “Congrats!”
Any story about painful or difficult labor and delivery.
No pregnant woman wants to hear a horror story about giving birth, especially if she’s a first-time mother and doesn’t know what to expect. While it’s true that anything can happen, don’t freak the poor woman out with the excruciating details of your traumatic experience.
Any story about how easy it is to be pregnant and/or give birth.
The last thing a pregnant woman who is struggling with morning sickness, swollen ankles, or any of the other less glamorous aspects of pregnancy wants to hear about is what a breeze it was for you. You never vomited once? Your baby just slid out? Good for you, but that doesn’t make her feel any better.
Any story that ends in death.
A lot of people for some unknown reason are inclined to tell stories that ended in some kind of tragedy. No pregnant woman wants to hear about a baby born with the cord wrapped around his neck, or a miscarriage at 20 weeks, or a crib death. These are pretty much the last thing needed for a stressed pregnant lady.
Are you sure it’s not twins?
Just don’t. Don’t even get think about asking this question.
Any comment that involves how the baby got there.
Don’t high-five the husband. Don’t congratulate him on “getting the job done.” Don’t ask if it happened ‘naturally.’
Pregnant women tend to be sensitive and meant to be showered with love and care.