A positive relationship between a child and parent is the foundation stone for the well being of the child. As a parent, it is your responsibility to build this relationship with your child. Following are 8 important factors, which help in developing a positive relationship with your child.
- Every child is unique: First and foremost factor is to embrace the fact that every child is unique. Do not compare your child with any other child and evaluate. Give your child the space to be himself/herself.
- Listen: Most of the time, all a child needs is to be heard. It could be the child’s excitement about a friend’s new pet or sadness of losing his/her favorite pencil. When your child wants to talk to you, keep your gadgets away and listen attentively. This asserts your interest in your child’s life and can go a long way in developing a bond through childhood and teens.
- Show empathy: Empathy is the key to any good relationship. When your child is upset over something, put yourself in your child’s place and try to understand his/her problem. When you respond with an understanding attitude to your child’s predicaments, it gives the child the confidence to approach you, whenever he/she is in trouble.
- Trust your child: Always show your child that you trust him/her. Trust is the foundation for strong relationship between you and your child. When you trust your child, your child will trust you back. Trusting your child also instills a sense of responsibility in your child.
- Refrain from over pampering: It is good to shower your child with love and affection but overly pampering your child by buying or doing whatever he/she wants, is not good for your child’s well being. Judiciously pampered kids grow up into more level-headed adults.
- Give your time: Play with your child, read to your child, go for picnics and family outings. Spend some time with your child every day. Time is the most valuable gift you can give to your child.
- Laugh together: Make a conscious effort to build happy, long lasting memories with your child. Kids find joy even in the smallest things. Laughing with your child is the best way to build a lasting bond.
- Love unconditionally: ‘Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts’, said Charles Dickens. Do not forget to love your child despite his/her naughtiness, crankiness, low grades, fights, and sleepless nights. The heart of a solid relationship is love.
Finally remember, as parenting expert Sue Atkins says, ‘There is no such thing as a perfect parent. So be a real one’. Give your best, as your child is worth it.