As with all drastic changes, the process is not an easy one. A baby does not fit neatly into your ongoing life. For different people the change is different, but after a baby enters, things do not go on as normal. To be more accurate the definition of normal in the life of a couple changes with the arrival of a baby.
From being carefree and independent people, parents become solely dependent on the dictates of the baby’s needs for planning their own life. No more going out for the evening on a whim and no more late nights at will. Instead, a routine for the baby which is totally different from what used to be your earlier schedule has to be adhered to. Adjusting to so much in a very short time is difficult, no matter how much you prepare for it mentally beforehand. Knowing that this is normal will help in coping with the changes.
The hormonal changes in the body of the mother can also make her go through a period of irritation and even mild depression. This is common to most new mothers and usually goes away on its own soon. While this period lasts you may find yourself being annoyed by every little thing like the telephone ringing at an inconvenient time or any well-meaning advice from a friend or relative. However, if the feeling of depression does not subside with time or aggravates, a medical opinion should be sought. It is not only the new mother who faces baby blues. A new father too can feel depressed and it is not unusual. New parents should take time out from their respective schedules and talk to each other about whatever it is that is bothering them. The constant flow of communication will lead to better understanding and sense of camaraderie.
There is no specific definition of parental responsibilities. It is a lifelong commitment towards a little person whom you have decided to bring to this world. Though the path to successful parenting is full of challenges and very often triggers self-doubt and worry, as all parents agree, being a parent is the best feeling in the world. The sacrifices seem to pale in comparison to the joys of parenthood.