Some new mothers need physical help, but a lot of women need help emotionally. Nurturing a new born is a pretty demanding job, and it is important that the partner understands her, especially in the early days of sleep deprivation and intense caring. It is important that the mother is rested and healthy to be able to take better care of the baby.
Here are some tips for men to be hands-on with their partners:
- Do try to nurture the new mom. Simple, easy jobs like serving up, cleaning up a meal go a long way.
- Tell her that it does not matter if the home is messier than usual and help do a bit of tidying.
- Your partner needs you to be around. Just being there for her will give her the emotional support that she is looking for.
- She may not be passionate about sex for a while. She is actually exhausted – what she needs is a soul mate.
- Do take time to listen to her problems. Be empathetic to her difficult experiences.
- Do remember to include some humour in your relationship.
- Do not let your fights continue overnight.
- You can take baby out for a walk so that the mom can have a quiet time.
- Change the baby’s diaper in the middle of the night without waking up mom.
- Give the baby a cuddle if he/she is crying and mom is flustered and upset. Give the mom a hug too.
One thing to consider is that moms can become so distracted and busy with a baby that they do not even get the time to eat properly. Eating well is very important. They may also feel down or stressed about not getting any house work done. By offering lots of nurturing to mom, you are giving her the strength to nurture others, including yourself, the new dad.