You are in the final trimester and both you and your partner are excited about welcoming the little one into your lives. That is all you can talk about these days. You are the one who has done most of the work. You will be the one going through the labour, the recovery post labour and the body changes that all this entails.
But do not forget that both of you are expecting this baby together. Naturally you will have expectations of his role and contributions to raising your child together. Here are some ways you both can do this together
- Plan together: Third trimester is the perfect time to plan and execute many activities like getting the baby’s room ready. Ordering the furniture for the baby and so on. Let him be a part of the process. Ask for his suggestions and opinions. This acts like a gentle reminder to him that he is a part of the process.
- Talk to them: They need to know. About your hormonal changes. About why you are a bundle of nerves. What are your pregnancy related fears? They can be a part of all this only if they learn from you. And you might be surprised as to how well they rise to the occasion.
- Visit the doctor together: As far as possible go for the checkups together. The doctor can address the concerns, if any, to the both of you. Plus it is a good way to make him aware of your discomforts without sounding like complaining.
- Ask for help: If he does not volunteer on his own, then ask for his help. Make him aware that with your full grown belly it is difficult for you to walk around and do your normal chores with ease. Plus there are aches and pains you are handling now. Be clear and specific about what you want. Do not feel guilty.
- Understand his stress: If you are not working or if you going to take a break from work after the baby is born, it might put extra pressure on him. Also, he will be worried about complications that you and your baby might face. All this is new for him too.
- Take a class together: If you are taking a birthing class, make sure he accompanies you especially in the third trimester. They will educate your partner on methods by which he can support you through labour distress.
- Ask him to be part of delivery: When your contractions begin, ask him to be there with you throughout till the birthing process. He can hold your hand, give you hot water bottles and soothe you through the pain. Even if it is a C-section, he can be present to witness the birth of your child.
You might be a little extra sensitive during pregnancy and feel resentful about your partner’s physical freedom. But they are equally happy and they definitely care about you and the little bundle of joy.