It is the duty and obligation of parents to make sure that their behaviour and habits do not have a negative impact on their child. Building a positive environment will help the child grow into a healthy and cheerful person. When children see their parents being affectionate and loving, the images of a healthy relationship get etched in their minds which they can recall when they are older.
If the child sees that the parents are helping each other out, it will teach her the qualities of being compassionate. Appreciating and applauding each other’s hard work and success in front of the child will teach her that a healthy relationship involves giving both positive and negative feedback when needed.
Disagreements and arguments between the parents can shape the child’s behaviour, emotional maturity and future relationships. Hence, it is important to be considerate towards each other’s feelings and handling arguments responsibly in front of the child. Yelling, fighting or being physically and verbally abusive to each other in front of the child will make her suffer from low self-confidence, emotional instability and depression in later stages of life. It is important to handle conflicts and arguments gently in front of the child to show them that conflicts can be dealt with in a constructive manner. Appropriate actions will teach the child that the parents love and respect each other.
While managing a family, parents can face various obstacles like money, health issues, jobs and responsibilities towards family. Children who see their parents handling a difficult family together will watch and learn problem-solving skills.
Here are a few suggestions on how to behave in front of your child:
- Be polite.
- Be affectionate. Saying how much you love her will help her reciprocate.
- Know how to react. Sometimes parents react passively and give in to bad behaviour only because they do not feel like confronting the problem.
- Do not shout or and yell at the child. It does not help.
- Avoid arrogance and pride and speak to the child with respect.
- Respect the child. The child needs her space. This will teach her to be considerate.
- Be patient when you differ. Even if you have different viewpoints, discuss things responsibly with your child.
To help the child grow up to be a responsible human being, it is imperative that parents apologise when wrong. Teaching children the ability to say sorry is one of the most critical qualities in life. So, say sorry to your child when you are in the wrong. It enhances your stature as a parent.