Duties like laundry, cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping need to be done and it should be the last thing that the expecting or new mum should be worrying about. A small team of serious helpers is what is required by the new parents while they are expecting the baby and more so after the baby is born. What they need is an efficient team, with defined roles and positions. Having friends and family close and visiting them often can be wonderful. The new mum should make sure that they understand that this is a unique time of her life.
It is important to plan and think about what she wants ahead of time before the baby is born. The flood of visitors after the baby is born can be overwhelming. Especially at a time when she is tired, and want to care for no one except her newborn.
One of the most common issues with the new mum is visitors. Visitors can get exhausting and the new mum should not be expected to do the entertaining bit as she is recovering and taking care of the little one. The flood of relatives visiting the mother at the hospital can be taken care of by the staff. But once the mum gets back home with her newborn, it can be very daunting. The new mum should focus on learning to take care of the baby and find her own individual family rhythm. Spacing out visitors is a good option.
The new mum should make sure there is bonding time with just herself, her partner, and the baby. Alone time is crucial. At least the first week spent alone with the partner and the baby can be one of the most amazing weeks of a mum’s life.
This is the time when the mum can be very emotional and her feelings will be rather intense. This is the time to focus on the baby, not relatives or family members. It should not really matter what others are thinking, or if others are offended. Simply blame it on the hormones! Contrary to our own sense of guilt about saying “no”, most people actually can empathise with the situation, especially those who have been through it themselves.
Allowing others to share in any and all parts should be the visitors’ privilege. With time, this new family pattern will fall into its own rhythm and the circle of family and friends will develop into loving bonds.