Here are some differences between first and second-time mommies.
- Clothes: for the first born, the mom must have had a vast collection of new baby clothes either gifted or bought. For the second born, she probably has a collection of pre-owned baby clothing. It is alright to make the second baby wear the clothes of the first one, as long as they have been stored carefully and have been washed and sun-dried well before use.
- Documentation: The mom has a carefully crafted baby book with photos of every “first”. The first smile, first time rolling over, first tooth, first word, and first step. For the second one…yes, of course. Every child is special and deserves his/her own memory book.
- Child care: If the mother leaves her first born with a caregiver, chances are that she will call or text wanting updates at least every half hour. For the second born, she can relax and does not get hyper like she was with the first.
- Visitor protocol: The new mom insists that the visitors wash their hands before they can hold the little baby. Many times she must have made the visitor wait until the baby’s nap time is over. For the second one, the mom, without hesitation hands over the baby to the visitor while she finishes some of the chores.
- Diaper checking: The new mom constantly checks the baby’s diaper to see if it needs to be changed. For the second one, she is more confident of how long should a diaper last and when it should be changed.
- Sickness: The mom can get thoroughly worked up to see the little baby running temperature or if the baby is constantly crying. With the second one, she knows how to handle the situation in a much better way.
- Travel: With the first baby, when she had to leave the house, she would have a dedicated diaper bag with everything the baby could possibly need while out. Diapers, wipes, burp cloths, ointments, lotions, change of clothes, assorted toys etc. With the second baby probably diapers and a change of clothes is all that she carries. That too in her purse!
Your life is about to double up with hugs, kisses and occasional tantrums, with two children to keep you on your toes. It may be exhausting at times, but the joys of motherhood are such that it only grows manifold with each child. You are sure to be more confident about your capabilities as a mother the second time round. All the best!