Now that in another nine months a new little one will be a reality, you have the all that time to prepare for fatherhood. The thought of fatherhood can be unnerving even if you have been expecting it. The transformation from a man to dad can evoke both fear and hope in the mind.
The most significant childbirth work of carrying and delivering a child is done by the mother. This can make the father feel a little side-lined from the process. Involvement in the pregnancy with your partner right from the beginning will make you feel more connected to both mother and the baby. There will also be the satisfaction of having had a role in the safe arrival of the baby.
Try to accompany your partner to the doctor’s appointments. This way you will be aware of the state of the pregnancy and what to expect. You can also find out the ways in which you can help at this stage.
Nausea and morning sickness, affects many women during the first trimester of pregnancy. Cooking only aggravates this nausea. If your partner is similarly affected by nausea and inability to eat, the best way to help is to take over the cooking for a while. Some women may be able to eat if they do not cook themselves and are away from the fumes of cooking food. Planning frequent, light nutritious meals for her is a good idea as this helps in case she gets heartburns. She may also have less energy for household work, so you can take over some of it or assure her that it is alright to leave some work undone right now.
The mother may experience mood shifts and be irritable during the first trimester. The hormones released by her body during pregnancy make her so. Her body will also be changing slowly so she may feel insecure about herself. Reassure her that this is all normal and will soon pass once the first trimester is over.
Keep engaging in activities that both you and your partner love to do together. Eating out in restaurants, going for a movie, shopping and socialising together during pregnancy, all strengthen the bond between partners. As parents to be, doing everyday activities together will bring you closer and develop your paternal instincts as you help your partner with things in which she needs help and sharing the tasks will only add to the intimacy that both of you already enjoy.